How to recognize a liar? Learn from a professional!
're lying all. Every day. Parents - children. Children grow up, lying to parents. They lie to each other friends, teachers and students, doctors and patients, husbands and wives, witnesses and jurors - in short, all those who, in theory, should be two halves of a whole, but this does not happen ...
Because it "easier to pay off a light than to dispel the darkness!" - As he said Zebulun.
Want to experiment? Try just one day to speak the truth. Even strangers. Even in small things ... I promise: the evening of such straining you just razbolitsya head, and you'll never go back to this venture!
Paul Ekman - bestselling author of "Psychology of lies. Lie to Me If You Can "(psychologist, doctor, scientist) - has been studying the lie for 40 years. It all started with that to Eckmann asked the doctor one of the psychiatric hospitals with a request to recognize the lie in the speech of patients, and thus prevent further suicide attempts.
After practicing at the hospital Ekman began to receive requests from the police, the FBI and the diplomatic consulates. Even when in 1979 he lectured in the USSR, came up to him some "comrades in mufti." He has conducted seminars for people working in the police and intelligence. And the test results among staff from different departments simply stunned him. Only the U.S. Secret Service reveals 80% of lies. All other agencies (including the CIA, FBI, etc.) show random results!
Only one judge After listened to lectures on lie detection suggested Eckmann make a permutation in the courtroom to see the back of the head is not a witness and a person. Just a thought. But for some reason before anybody about it did not bother!
Politicians, actors and psychopaths - are professional liars
That these people can easily circle the listeners around your finger. Joseph Stalin once said: "Sincere diplomacy is just as impossible, as a dry vodka!".
«I am convinced that any politician who deftly meets questions of the press conference, making himself a brilliant image on television and radio, has the innate talent of a liar! "- the second Eckman, thoroughly studying the videos and memoirs of famous politicians.
Actors, thanks to the Stanislavsky system, before you play a certain scene, remembering a similar experience that occurred in their lives, and then simply "tolerate" his emotions on stage. Physiology - no more!
By and large, we are all a little actors: draw on the face of indifferent smile ("I do not care!") very easily. Much easier than playing real grief or anger, when it does not feel at Actually ...
Tell the truth. Then you just will not believe!
«Robert Lacey - policeman, dobyvshy set of clues with the help of a tape recorder, hidden under clothing. But here it was suspected that he was - a secret informant. If criminals have found him this tape - he hardly could have been saved. And he understood that he must play "on a grand scale, so were with De Stefano (gang leader) in the cafe, said:
- Come on now are not going to sit next with a jukebox, and then my last time a record came out bad.
All around burst out laughing, just laughing De Stefano was a dryish .... "
Error Othello
«Well, if someone is suspected fraud - to dissuade him in this almost impossible. Besides there are thousands of evidence against an innocent man, "- writes man, 28 years worked at the CIA.
Such people will be blinded to dig, and what is most surprising - to find confirmation of their own fantasies. Of these, grow the most terrible witnesses and jurors at the trial! Therefore, suspecting something of a man, so it is important to be impartial, detached from the "victim".
Is it foolish to believe the car?
«Lie Detector" - in fact, highly controversial version of the detection of falsehood. Although lately it is widely used the police, journalism, private businesses and even a job at McDonald's.
Costly device controls the amount of stress in the body. But it does not mean that it detects a lie! The detector repeats the mistake of Othello, who took the fear and tears Desdemona boyavsheysya being killed for fear of and the tears of remorse at the defunct high treason. Is precisely because innocent people may be experiencing strong emotions due to the fact that they are somewhat suspect and test on the detector. But, as you know, at the level of sales of this expensive equipment is not affected, unfortunately ...
How to recognize a liar? Invisible signals
As a student, Ekman devised a bold experiment. Senior lecturer acted as a "source of stress." To him, one invited students, in which he literally "pounced" by criticizing their behavior, learning, and even the manner of thinking. Ekman himself oversaw the experiment through a mirror window, removing what is happening on camera. After the third hit the teacher one of the students showed him ... the middle finger. Eckman not believe my eyes: her hand lay quietly on his knee, and neither she nor the professor himself, in the heat of conversation did not notice this unconscious movement, but the scrolling film all confirmed ...
human eye, tone, smile, voice, body movements: we should never rely on just one sign of fraud - there should be few. And to compute professional liar - should itself be a pro.
philosophers for centuries arguing over what is a lie. And many cling to the "saving the thread: if at stake is human life, then lie excuses!
to Dr. Ekman is no "bailout loopholes": he calls their names. Just concealed you about something or really distorted the facts: you - a liar, and in any case - not worthy!
Some people believe that the best (or morally) do not try to identify the lie, and always believe every word. It is better to be deceived than wrongly convict someone. Sometimes this is indeed the most correct move.
«We can lie or tell the truth - says Paul Ekman - see fraud or skip it, mistake, or to find out the truth. We have a choice! »
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